You have some advice, though, on how to spot a cheater and one of the first things is you say, just again as common sense, is be careful of a man with a history of cheating because a lot of women think ‘Oh, he’s not gonna do it with me’ but once a cheater, you always hear that, always a cheater.
So well it’s really rare that people will change that, you know, I mean that’s one of the biggest predictors of future cheating is previous cheating. So people, women, fall into the trap of, well, I’m the special one and you know I’m gonna change him.
But if a guy has gotten help, maybe, if you’ve got how counseling…
Yes, absolutely I believe that anyone can change and I’ve seen plenty of man with
this issue that they can work it out, no question.
Now again, you say, when it comes to spotting a cheater, be careful of a man who accuses you of cheating to distract you?
Right. It’s a way, where if you’re worried about yourself and wondering, why is he so concerned with me, then you’re not paying attention to what he’s doing.
And you also say, be careful of someone who suddenly changes their habits, maybe the way they dress, they start working out a lot, maybe their diet that could be a sign?
Right, just a sudden change in habits, especially if there is missing time involved. You know, suddenly there is a lot more work commitments or he’s supposed to be somewhere that he’s not and doesn’t really have a good explanation as to why, or no explanation. Those are a lot of signs.
You’ve given us a lot to think about. Thank you, Heather Robbins, for your time.