Many individuals struggle to find or sustain their ideal romantic relationship. Clients are often frustrated with dating, feeling that certain unwanted patterns play out over and over again, seemingly outside of their control. The therapy process can help "update" dating patterns, bringing to light the various ways in which the client tends to defeat him or herself by choosing the wrong partners, and illuminating ways in which the individual may unconsciously push away more healthy partners.

Issues that often complicate finding the right relationship:

• Sexual issues
• Self-confidence and self-esteem
• Family issues
• Social anxiety
• Depression
• Body image issues
• Not knowing where to start
• Difficulty in meeting new people
• Career comittments
• Trust issues

In helping the client find the ideal relationship, the therapist may at times work more as a dating coach. The therapist may encourage the client to set specific dating goals, then help him or her to maximize online dating, or to meet suitable dates through the local scene. As emotional and psychological issues arise during the dating process, the therapist is ready to help the client exmaine unresolved issues.