What if I get too dependent upon, or attached to, my therapist?
A common misconception regarding psychotherapy is the fear of losing one's independence and autonomy. This fear stems from the mistaken notion that the therapist somehow takes over the client, making important life decisions for him or her, telling him or her how to feel, and so on. The role of the therapist is more that of an expert consultant than it is an authoritative boss.
The therapist helps the client to find the confidence to function more and more independently and confidently in all aspects of life. To see the ways in which the individual may feel unnecessarily dependent on others, including the therapist at times, is sometimes a goal of psychotherapy.
At the same time, it is common for the client to re-experience some early aspect of childhood parental relationships within the context of therapy. In psychodynamic psychotherapy, for example, this process is extremely helpful in resolving early conflicts with parents and other authority figures. Openly discussing concerns you have about becoming overly attached to the therapist is the best, most direct way to resolve misgivings.
- Does therapy really work?
- How long will I need to be in therapy?
- How often should I come?
- How can I measure my progress in therapy?
- What if I don't share the same belief system or life circumstances as my therapist?
- What if I get too dependent upon, or attached to, my therapist?
- What if I begin to have negative feelings toward my therapist?
- What if I develop sexual feelings for my therapist?
- Can I use my insurance?