In the 90’s there was a popular song by the artist Meatloaf. I must have heard this song a hundred times, but I only remember one lyric: I would do anything for love, but I won’t do that. As a therapist, I often find myself having “anything but that” discussions. My clients often say things like:… CONTINUE
Changing versus Accepting
Suppose you want to eat less chocolate cake. You can put 100% energy and focus into this issue. You can read about the hazards of chocolate cake. You can visit with a nutritionist. You can keep the refrigerator stocked with vegetables. Or you can go the other way. You can recognize that eating chocolate cake… CONTINUE
Are You Ready for Change?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC “Let your refrigerator inspire you.” I recently said this to a client. “Because of the wine, you mean?” she said. Not because of the wine. Or at least not just because of the wine. Consider that little light inside your refrigerator. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been since you last opened… CONTINUE
When is it Time for a Big Change?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC You dream you’re a mouse in a maze. You turn this way, that way, this way, that way, but you never find the cheese. Or if you do find the cheese, it’s dissatisfying. Why? Because it’s dream cheese. It doesn’t really matter if the mouse “solves” this puzzle. To say… CONTINUE
Making Your New Year’s Resolutions Work
Jan 16, 2015 So here were are mid-January, 2015. How are your New Year’s resolutions coming along? I don’t have to tell you that resolutions fail more often than not, and many Americans have likely already given up after a couple of weeks of best intentions. Here are some tips to help keep your New Year on… CONTINUE
Positive Change, Positive Thought
The mind is nothing but thoughts. Strong thoughts become actions; repeated actions become habits; and habits become character. –Mata Amritanandamayi Profound, lasting positive change begins with positive thought. People often fail to make concrete, measurable improvements in their lives because they address the external, but neglect the internal. It’s difficult to initiate and/or sustain positive… CONTINUE
Personal Strength: The One Week Challenge
Are you undervalued by your friends and family? Underpaid by your employer? Lied to by politicians, corporations, credit card companies? Most people feel wronged, to one degree or another, on a regular basis. And no doubt they are wronged. But can you really change your friends, your family, your boss, your political leaders? Probably not…. CONTINUE