Suppose you decide to hike up a mountain trail. Before you embark on your journey, you load your backpack with rocks. You plan to use these rocks to build a sturdy shelter once you reach the top of the mountain. Halfway up, you are feeling exhausted. You decide to load some more rocks into your… CONTINUE
Working Through Family Conflict
There is your family-of-origin, your parents and siblings. Then there is the family you choose, your romantic partner and kids. If you belong to both of these groups, you will inevitably find yourself caught between the two at some point. More often than not, I encourage my clients to align with their chosen family when tensions… CONTINUE
Are You Playing Whack-a-Mole with Your Life?
Most people are waiting on something. Better job, financial freedom, better relationship, improved health, completion of a stressful project. Maybe the thing you’re waiting on will happen, maybe not. But even when you do finally complete that stressful project, for instance, what then? Then something else comes up. It’s like the whack-a-mole game: smack down… CONTINUE
Is Your Belief System Working For You?
You have your own ideas about religion and politics. You have your own definition of honor, fairness, courage, authenticity. You have your personal philosophy regarding relationships, career and family. You have your own belief system. But how do you know if this belief system is really working? After all, a belief system is only as effective as the thoughts, feelings and behaviors… CONTINUE
When is it Time for a Career Change?
Bob picks apples for a living. The thing is, Bob hates picking apples. But he decides to be the best possible apple-picker he can be, hopefully earning him a promotion one day. And one day, Bob does get that promotion. Now he’s no longer picking apples. Now he’s managing other people who pick apples. Now he… CONTINUE
Using “Then What” Thinking to Overcome Anxiety
What’s the worst that could possibly happen? You either avoid this question or you tackle it head-on. When you’re feeling anxious about some life change or new undertaking, it can be useful to consciously consider the Worst Case Scenario. Suppose you fear certain social situations, such as business meetings. Regarding your next business meeting, what… CONTINUE
Overcoming the Monster Beneath Your Bed
As a child, were you ever trapped by a monster under your bed? Having a suspected bed monster presents an uncomfortable dilemma. On the one hand, you want to get away from the monster ASAP. At the same time, we all know what happens the minute you step out of bed to make your escape…. CONTINUE
Dealing with Dishonesty in a Relationship
You will meet two types of people in life: people who are basically honest, and people who are not. Being able to distinguish between the two is important–especially when it comes to choosing a romantic partner. (After all, it’s not like a dishonest person is going to tell you he or she is dishonest upfront.) If… CONTINUE
Take the Home Tour . . . or Don’t
You buy a new home and fill it with stuff. Then what? Then you invite over everyone you know and force them to “take the tour,” which requires them to comment on how clever and shiny the various objects you have accumulated are. The downside is you’re required to return the favor when that person… CONTINUE
Who Are You Really? How to Actually Impress Others
There’s the story of who you are, and then there’s who you really are. We call this self-story the ego. The ego, by definition, is less accurate than it is self-serving. In fact, most people spend an incredible amount of energy trying to convince others of the truth of their ego story. See how smart I am,… CONTINUE
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