Negativity can be a normal and valid feeling, but some people seem perpetually surrounded by it. When that someone is a close family member, co-worker or a good friend, it’s normal to want to lend them an ear — or even try to solve their problems. But over time, this can become exhausting. At first,… CONTINUE
Understanding Guilt and How It Works
Did you know guilt is not listed as one of the main human emotions from a neurological standpoint? What is it about then and how does it work? Is guilt a useful tool for affecting change? Dallas Whole Life Counseling founder and licensed counselor, James Robbins, takes a moment to explains what’s really behind guilt…. CONTINUE
More Money, More Problems?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC As a therapist, I’ve been fortunate enough to work with clients from all over the world, and from a very wide variety of economic backgrounds. These days, a lot of my clients are what I call 3 percenters. Who are the 3 percenters? Individuals who make 100k or more annually are… CONTINUE
Chasing the Next Big Thing
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Not getting what you want doesn’t make you happy. Obviously. But neither does getting what you want. It’s human nature to focus on the Next Big Thing. A wedding, a promotion, a cross-country move. You’re waiting for that thing to happen because then life will be better. And life probably… CONTINUE
Letting Go of Suffering
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Pain is different than suffering. You stub your toe. A wave of unpleasant physical sensation comes and goes. The whole thing is done in 90 seconds or less. That’s pain. You could say that some degree of pain is inevitable in life. But suppose after you stub your toe,… CONTINUE
3 Keys to a Successful Relationship
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Collectively, my wife and I share about 40 years experience working with couples from all walks of life. We were recently talking shop, discussing what factors we see most consistently in the happiest, healthiest couples. Here are the Big Three: Steady chemical base Here, I’m calling a “chemical” anything you consume. Medication,… CONTINUE
What Do You Collect?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Everyone collects something. Money, experiences, feelings, awards, relationships, ideas. Whatever your preferred “collectable,” you’ve learned to grab as much as you can before someone else does. This becomes the central focus of your life. You collect this, then this, then this, and you stuff it all into a shoebox beneath… CONTINUE
Who Can You Really Trust?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC You buy an antique at a roadside flea market. You’re uncertain at first, because the market has a no return policy. But the seller of this particular antique is a lovable little old lady with a picture of her grandkids printed on her t-shirt. She seems sincere and trustworthy, so… CONTINUE
When Someone Mistreats You, How Do You Move On?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Forgiveness doesn’t work. Neither does forgetting. Why? Because both assume you have been wronged, and that you’re doing someone else a favor by not punishing them for it. “I forgive you ” really means We both know you did something bad, but I am choosing not to give you the… CONTINUE
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Do you remember being a child, a yellow plastic steering wheel stacked in your lap as you rode in the car with a parent? Only in your mind you weren’t riding–you were driving. It’s an understandable mistake. You kept turning your wheel, the car kept turning its wheels, therefore you… CONTINUE
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