Dealing with Repeated Cheating and Infidelity

Posted Oct 28, 2017 by James Robbins, MA, LPC

Every “serial cheater” requires a “serial truster.”

If your partner is repeatedly unfaithful, feeling like a victim won’t get you anywhere. Neither will looking the other way again and again. You don’t get points for ignoring the obvious. Looking the other way doesn’t make you generous or kind–it just makes you avoidant of the truth.

The question isn’t “Why does my partner cheat?” The real question is “Why do you continue to tolerate it?”

Please note: I’m not saying you should or should not tolerate your partner cheating. That’s a choice only you can make. But I am saying to make a conscious choice. If your partner is habitually dishonest with you, can you at least be 100% honest with yourself? Do some soul searching. Ask yourself what keeps you in this relationship. The point isn’t to judge or berate yourself–the point is to simply observe. Ultimately, the only person who can truly hide something from you is you.

About James Robbins, MA, LPC

James Robbins is a licensed professional counselor, published author and co-owner of Dallas Whole Life Counseling. He has over 15 years of experience helping people in various life stages that come from a wide variety of cultural, economic and family backgrounds. Want to be notified via email when new articles are available? Subscribe here or follow Dallas Whole Life Counseling on Facebook.

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