Put 10 complete strangers in a room together and what happens? Most of them start bonding—but through negativity. Can you believe how hot they keep it in this room? Have you seen the idiots in the room next door? The majority of people find it more comfortable to be against something rather than for something. Complaining is the default social strategy for most people trying to join or fit in to a group. But why is this?
The Need to be Better Than
Next time you find yourself talking to your family, friends or co-workers, notice how causally negativity keeps coming up. Maybe it’s something as simple as complaining about the weather or highway traffic. Notice your own tendency to join in with these complaints, even if only to be “polite.” Instead, try a positive approach. Talk about what makes you happy. Discuss your passions. Share the things for which you are grateful. Emphasize the things you want more of in your life, not the things you want less of. It’s about being intentional rather than just going through the same old song and dance socially. Like attracts like. When you are in the habit of being positive socially, you will find that more and more positive people are drawn to you.