“Please accept my resignation. I don’t want to belong to any club that will accept people like me as a member.” When comedian Groucho Marx wrote this, he was expressing a peculiar, yet very common, human trait. A lot of individuals reflexively distrust people that truly appreciate them. As a therapist, I see this a lot […]
Does Dishonesty Work?
Is honesty really the best policy? Set aside morality and ethics for a moment. Let’s just consider whether honesty is the best strategy for getting what you want out of life. Upside of Dishonesty The main benefit of dishonesty is it gives you a seeming advantage over another person. Take cheating, for example. When you’re […]
Is Being “Special” the Key to Self-Worth?
When I was in my twenties, I did my best to dress like a rock star. I thought of myself as a true original, and I wore clothes I imagined clearly announced my “specialness” to the world around me. I felt superior to people who wore a suit and tie to work. They were just […]
When Do You Qualify for Happiness?
When you go to a restaurant, your primary goal is to eat. Maybe your secondary goal is to enjoy the atmosphere. But suppose you go to a restaurant and you get so lost in the atmosphere you forget to eat. You are going to feel dissatisfied, because no amount of atmosphere is ever going to […]
Are You Using Positivity or Negativity to Connect with Others?
Put 10 complete strangers in a room together and what happens? Most of them start bonding—but through negativity. Can you believe how hot they keep it in this room? Have you seen the idiots in the room next door? The majority of people find it more comfortable to be against something rather than for something. […]
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