In most romantic relationships, there are two roles: the pursuer and the pursued. When these roles are out of balance, the relationship suffers. The pursuer wants more togetherness. She wants more quality time with her partner, more communication, more physical and emotional closeness. She wants more commitment, and often feels she isn’t the main priority […]
Do Opposites Attract?
People are often drawn to romantic partners that balance their own qualities in some way. For example, if you are a spontaneous person, you may be attracted to someone who is especially structured. If you are a chronic worrier, you may be attracted to someone who is especially calm. In this sense, opposites often attract. […]
Who Are You When You Stop Pretending?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Most people most of the time are pretending to be someone they are not. Day after day, you put on this mask, take off that one. Cheerful parent, hard worker, survivor, romantic partner, bully, victim, rebel, learner, helper. The costume changes are endless. Although it’s important to be able to […]
