Every “serial cheater” requires a “serial truster.” If your partner is repeatedly unfaithful, feeling like a victim won’t get you anywhere. Neither will looking the other way again and again. You don’t get points for ignoring the obvious. Looking the other way doesn’t make you generous or kind–it just makes you avoidant of the truth. […]
Is Marriage the Key to Happiness?
Study after study indicates that marriage, or married people, tend to be happier than non-married people. But this is a correlation–not a statement of cause and effect. You could assume that marriage makes people happy–or you could assume that happy people are more likely to marry. Whatever the case, I don’t suggest waiting on a […]
Making Amends
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC A sincere apology is always a good place to start, but “making amends” is even better. Suppose you bark at your spouse for no good reason. Try this: Own your mistake. Simply say “‘I’m sorry I was irritable earlier. I realize it upsets you when I raise my voice.” […]
10 Red Flags When Dating a New Partner
1. He describes himself as a “momma’s boy.” She describes herself as a “daddy’s girl.” 2. He or she is married or “in the process of divorcing” when you begin dating. 3. This person complains often. Bad boss, crazy ex, selfish friends, whatever. Date this person long enough, and you will certainly find yourself added to […]
Is He a Serial Cheater?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Everyone makes mistakes. People who genuinely love and value their partners can still suffer lapses of judgment. Although infidelity can be incredibly painful, it doesn’t have to end a relationship. In fact, when an affair becomes known, this is often what prompts couples to seek a therapist and work […]
