by James Robbins, M.A., LPC If you’re 95% certain you’re ready to have kids, don’t. Wait until you’re 120% certain. If you are 120% certain you want have kids, pay close attention to the timing. Keep in mind that only 1 out of 3 couples feels that having kids was good for their relationship. And […]
How Couples Counseling Helps Couples Work Through Issues
Couples counseling helps couples work through their issues in a number of ways. For example, when most couples come to counseling they’ve experienced some issues, some struggles around communication, they find that they’re in some stale issues where they just go round and round in arguments. What we refer to in couples counseling are scripts […]
Right Here, Right Now: Can You Show Me Where It Hurts?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC In this exact moment, what seems to be the problem? Can you show me here it hurts? Money issues? I hear you. But right now, if you could triple the money in your bank account, what good would it do you? Would you be reading this on a bigger screen? […]
Are You a Relationship Expert?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC, Maybe you consider yourself good at relationships. Maybe you don’t. But even if you are a relationship expert, you are not the relationship expert in your relationship. If you were, then you wouldn’t be in that relationship. When you are in a serious relationship, this is–by definition–the very best relationship you […]
When is it Time to Leave?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC There are two types of people in the world: people who stay and people who leave. Which are you? If you’re a stayer, you go to a movie. Within the first 20 minutes, you realize the movie is a complete dud. But you decide to stay and see where things […]





