by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Everyone makes mistakes. People who genuinely love and value their partners can still suffer lapses of judgment. Although infidelity can be incredibly painful, it doesn’t have to end a relationship. In fact, when an affair becomes known, this is often what prompts couples to seek a therapist and work […]
How Can You Grow from Conflict?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Next time you’re in an argument with your spouse, your family, your co-workers, remember this: The other person in an argument knows you are wrong. This is why they’re arguing with you. They aren’t pretending to think you’re in error. They’re not waiting for you to express yourself in just […]
Am I Ready to Have Kids?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC If you’re 95% certain you’re ready to have kids, don’t. Wait until you’re 120% certain. If you are 120% certain you want have kids, pay close attention to the timing. Keep in mind that only 1 out of 3 couples feels that having kids was good for their relationship. And […]
How Couples Counseling Helps Couples Work Through Issues
Couples counseling helps couples work through their issues in a number of ways. For example, when most couples come to counseling they’ve experienced some issues, some struggles around communication, they find that they’re in some stale issues where they just go round and round in arguments. What we refer to in couples counseling are scripts […]
Right Here, Right Now: Can You Show Me Where It Hurts?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC In this exact moment, what seems to be the problem? Can you show me here it hurts? Money issues? I hear you. But right now, if you could triple the money in your bank account, what good would it do you? Would you be reading this on a bigger screen? […]