As a therapist, I’ve had the opportunity to work with individuals who have achieved remarkable success in a variety of life areas. When I consider this collection of unusually successful individuals, I ask myself a question: What is the true value of success? When people achieve their most ambitious goals, they come face-to-face with a… CONTINUE
Career and Memory Shortcuts
Memory is a funny thing. It tends to use shortcuts. One of these is called the “peak-end” rule. Take your job, for example. You have an overall idea of your job satisfaction, but you don’t remember every day of your job in detail. Instead, your brain remembers the extremes, the “peaks.” It remembers your very… CONTINUE
Recognizing Your True Priorities
What are your priorities? People tend to view this as a philosophical question. They tend to define their priorities based on their belief systems. 9 out of 10 people will tell you their number one priority is their family. But what if you set aside your belief system for moment, and approach this question in… CONTINUE
When is it Time for a Career Change?
Bob picks apples for a living. The thing is, Bob hates picking apples. But he decides to be the best possible apple-picker he can be, hopefully earning him a promotion one day. And one day, Bob does get that promotion. Now he’s no longer picking apples. Now he’s managing other people who pick apples. Now he… CONTINUE
Take the Home Tour . . . or Don’t
You buy a new home and fill it with stuff. Then what? Then you invite over everyone you know and force them to “take the tour,” which requires them to comment on how clever and shiny the various objects you have accumulated are. The downside is you’re required to return the favor when that person… CONTINUE
Is Time Really Money?
Suppose you worked half as much as you currently do, and made half what you currently make. Where would you cut back? Would you downsize your house, your car? Would you eat out less, save less, get rid of cable? Whatever the case, think of all the free time you would suddenly have. What kind… CONTINUE
Is Marriage the Key to Happiness?
Study after study indicates that married people tend to be happier than non-married people. But this is a correlation–not a statement of cause and effect. You could assume that marriage makes people happy–or you could assume that happy people are more likely to marry. Whatever the case, I don’t suggest waiting on a relationship… CONTINUE
Is Email Really Worth It?
Email represents a major step forward in human communication, and has made all of our lives much more convenient and efficient. Right? Twenty years or so ago when email started to take over the world, it seemed to promise a new era of time-saving correspondence. If you wanted to communicate with someone on the other side of… CONTINUE