What’s the least helpful thing you can say to someone who is stressed and anxious? Just relax. Telling someone who is stressed to relax is like telling someone who wants to win the race to run faster. Obviously, if an anxious person could relax in that moment, she would do just that. And oftentimes, the harder […]
Easy Relaxation Tip
Relax your face, and your mind will follow. When you think, your eyes are involved. Try to remember what you ate for breakfast yesterday. In trying to remember, your eyes look away for a moment or they defocus. Your eyes react when you call something to your mind’s eye. This is especially true when you […]
Using “Then What” Thinking to Overcome Anxiety
What’s the worst that could possibly happen? You either avoid this question or you tackle it head-on. When you’re feeling anxious about some life change or new undertaking, it can be useful to consciously consider the Worst Case Scenario. Suppose you fear certain social situations, such as business meetings. Regarding your next business meeting, what […]
Trump Lovers and Trump Haters Unite! Here’s How You Maximize the Donald Years
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC You’re going to be seeing a lot of president elect Donald Trump for at least the next four years. Even more than you have been lately. Even more than when Omarosa was on “The Apprentice.” Some of you will like this. Some of you will not like this. Either way, […]
Do You Ever Truly Clear Your Mind?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC You want to clear you mind. You take a walk, work in in the garden, run an errand. You do some simple, relatively “automatic” task that doesn’t require your mind to do anything in particular. But is this really clearing your mind? Suppose you had a hard day at work. […]