In the 90’s there was a popular song by the artist Meatloaf. I must have heard this song a hundred times, but I only remember one lyric: I would do anything for love, but I won’t do that. As a therapist, I often find myself having “anything but that” discussions. My clients often say things like: […]
Changing versus Accepting
Suppose you want to eat less chocolate cake. You can put 100% energy and focus into this issue. You can read about the hazards of chocolate cake. You can visit with a nutritionist. You can keep the refrigerator stocked with vegetables. Or you can go the other way. You can recognize that eating chocolate cake […]
Are You Ready for Change?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC “Let your refrigerator inspire you.” I recently said this to a client. “Because of the wine, you mean?” she said. Not because of the wine. Or at least not just because of the wine. Consider that little light inside your refrigerator. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been since you last opened […]
When is it Time for a Big Change?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC You dream you’re a mouse in a maze. You turn this way, that way, this way, that way, but you never find the cheese. Or if you do find the cheese, it’s dissatisfying. Why? Because it’s dream cheese. It doesn’t really matter if the mouse “solves” this puzzle. To say […]
Making Your New Year’s Resolutions Work
Jan 16, 2015 So here were are mid-January, 2015. How are your New Year’s resolutions coming along? I don’t have to tell you that resolutions fail more often than not, and many Americans have likely already given up after a couple of weeks of best intentions. Here are some tips to help keep your New Year on […]