Couples counseling helps couples work through their issues in a number of ways. For example, when most couples come to counseling they’ve experienced some issues, some struggles around communication, they find that they’re in some stale issues where they just go round and round in arguments. What we refer to in couples counseling are scripts […]
Right Here, Right Now: Can You Show Me Where It Hurts?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC In this exact moment, what seems to be the problem? Can you show me here it hurts? Money issues? I hear you. But right now, if you could triple the money in your bank account, what good would it do you? Would you be reading this on a bigger screen? […]
Are You a Relationship Expert?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC, Maybe you consider yourself good at relationships. Maybe you don’t. But even if you are a relationship expert, you are not the relationship expert in your relationship. If you were, then you wouldn’t be in that relationship. When you are in a serious relationship, this is–by definition–the very best relationship you […]
When is it Time to Leave?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC There are two types of people in the world: people who stay and people who leave. Which are you? If you’re a stayer, you go to a movie. Within the first 20 minutes, you realize the movie is a complete dud. But you decide to stay and see where things […]
Who Are You Depressed At?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC, A depressed person doesn’t necessarily perceive herself as an angry person. To some extent, you could say a depressed person is “angry at himself.” But this is only part of the story. When I work with a depressed client, I often ask her: Who are you depressed at? Suppose you […]