by James Robbins, M.A., LPC, Maybe you consider yourself good at relationships. Maybe you don’t. But even if you are a relationship expert, you are not the relationship expert in your relationship. If you were, then you wouldn’t be in that relationship. When you are in a serious relationship, this is–by definition–the very best relationship you […]
You Should Quit “Shoulding” Yourself
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC, Being a better person is highly overrated. It tends to involve a lot of “shoulds.” You should eat less salt. You should drive with your hands at 10 and 2. You should sit at least three feet from all electronic devices and never swim after eating spaghetti. In the therapy world, we […]
Why God Why Do Men Keep Sending Dick Pics?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Over the years, many of my female clients have related incidents in which they have received “dick pics.” At best these women were amused. At worst they were horrified. Men: Please be confident that the world–and its millions of female inhabitants–can very likely survive the next few millennia without seeing a single photo […]
Why Are Relationships So Depressing?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC When you’re going through a breakup, or even an intense fight with your romantic partner, it can feel like a catastrophe. Your work suffers, you’re moody, you’re appetite and sleep patterns are out of whack. You may feel a deep sense of loss or grief, as if you are losing […]
When is it Time to Leave?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC There are two types of people in the world: people who stay and people who leave. Which are you? If you’re a stayer, you go to a movie. Within the first 20 minutes, you realize the movie is a complete dud. But you decide to stay and see where things […]