by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Forgiveness doesn’t work. Neither does forgetting. Why? Because both assume you have been wronged, and that you’re doing someone else a favor by not punishing them for it. “I forgive you ” really means We both know you did something bad, but I am choosing not to give you the […]
Do You Suffer from Time Traveling Disorder?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Fear and anger are at the core of every negative human emotion, thought and behavior. Depression and anxiety. Financial worries. Relationship struggles and family drama. Health issues, aging and various addictions. Each of these comes down to one of two things: Fear of someone taking something from you in the future. Anger toward someone […]
Are Your Values Genuine?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC What personal values are the most important to you? Love, money, health, kindness, career, spirituality, honesty, family? Now consider this: Does your current life reflect this value? Do your daily behaviors, your daily thoughts and feelings, strongly align with this value? If you spend hours daily thinking about money, worrying […]
Letting Go of Anger
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC In and of itself, anger is neither good nor bad. It’s just an energy. Anger toward an employer or romantic partner can lend you the courage to leave an unhealthy situation. Anger regarding some social injustice may motivate you to write a check or lend a hand. When you point […]
The Five Core Emotions – But Where Is Guilt?
by James Robbins, M.A., LPC Your brain “officially” recognizes five emotions: anger sadness joy fear disgust What about guilt? Guilt is suspiciously missing from this list because guilt is really anger in disguise. I often ask my clients: Who are you guilty at? Suppose you forget your spouse’s birthday. You already feel terrible, and then your spouse […]