Resolving Conflicts and Letting Go Power Struggles It’s all too easy to fall into negative habits with the people you are closest to, or work closely with. Your spouse, your family, your co-workers. When you spend a lot of time with someone, and when you share common goals, a sense of mutual dependency tends to… CONTINUE
Giving Constructive Criticism: Walking the Fine Line Between Condescending and Caving In
It’s not easy to communicate negative feedback in a helpful way. Many people err by going too far in one direction or another. Maybe you go “too soft,” tending to altogether avoid giving negative feedback. Your waiter brings you the wrong dish, but you decide to eat it anyway because you don’t want to cause… CONTINUE
5 Ways to Handle Negative People
Negativity can be a normal and valid feeling, but some people seem perpetually surrounded by it. When that someone is a close family member, co-worker or a good friend, it’s normal to want to lend them an ear — or even try to solve their problems. But over time, this can become exhausting. At first,… CONTINUE
Staying Connected in Uncertain Times
As a result of this crisis and pandemic, we have been collectively impacted by this world we live in. There are many tragedies that have come with this, but as a positive outcome we have grown closer. We are sending and receiving messages of healing, sharing stories of hurt, acknowledging that each other is the… CONTINUE
What Can You Learn from Your Best (and Worst) Relationships?
I had a cat who compulsively pawed at her own shadow on the wall. Sometimes this habit seemed to entertain her. Sometimes it seemed to frighten her. The thing was, however frantically she pawed at that shadow, it pawed back just as frantically. My cat never seemed to figure out that the only way to… CONTINUE
Why Do People Choose the Wrong Romantic Partners?
“Please accept my resignation. I don’t want to belong to any club that will accept people like me as a member.” When comedian Groucho Marx wrote this, he was expressing a peculiar, yet very common, human trait. A lot of individuals reflexively distrust people that truly appreciate them. As a therapist, I see this a lot… CONTINUE
Considering Divorce? Try This First.
About 50% of first marriages end in divorce. For every marriage after that, the divorce rate only goes up. This means that, statistically speaking, your best chance is always to work out your current marriage. If you are considering divorce, but still have the slightest doubt about this course of action, try these two options… CONTINUE
Couples Counseling: Getting More from Your Partner
by James Robbins, Licensed Counselor and Relationship Expert Couples generally come to couples counseling wanting more from their partner. Maybe you want more quality time, more trust, more physical intimacy, more positive feedback. Whatever you’re wanting more of, you’ve probably expressed this to your partner time and again, in different words and with a variety… CONTINUE
Are You in a Love Triangle?
It often seems as if a third party is disrupting a couple’s relationship bond. The most concrete example of this is a love triangle in which one member has an affair. But there are other kinds of “love triangles” in which the third party is much less obvious than a direct romantic or sexual rival…. CONTINUE
Couples Counseling: Are You the Good One or the Bad One?
If I run into you in the checkout line at the liquor store, who am I to judge you for buying liquor? When you are in a committed romantic relationship with someone, both of you are, by definition, shopping at the same liquor store. Good One vs. Bad One When couples see me for couples… CONTINUE
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